Do you ever feel isolated?

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Do you ever feel like a prisoner in your own home? Or feel like you are just a nanny, maid, chauffer....

posted October 21, 2006 - 3:42pm

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wesleysmom0604 wrote 2 years 4 weeks ago

I am very outgoing and being a stay at home mom can sometimes make me feel isolated. So, I get involved in moms groups, such as MOPS (mothers of preschoolers ) and my local Moms Club.

Julie Harrell Potter Daughter of God, Wife to Jacob, and Mother to Wesley "All things are possible through Christ who gives me strength" (PHil 4:13)

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beachmommy wrote 2 years 4 weeks ago

Isolation, lonliness and "the blues" are things I find I am constantly fighting and find that they all tend to spiral out of control very quickly. There is so much "crap" stuff that has to be done here at home, and then everything I get involved in seems to require more "work" that needs to get done (of course, if I could say "no" to just one more website that would help...)

I don't have a solution for you ... but there are definitely others out there who feel the same way you do! I have no problem with the getting dressed everyday, but I have to work very hard to make sure I get out in the real world everyday (without spending money, of course)...

Good luck - it does get better!

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TheMentorMom wrote 2 years 4 weeks ago

I remember feeling completely overwhelmed and alone with my first child! You are certainly not alone! You've taken a great step by joining such a wonderful forum where you can connect with other parents. I'm not sure how old your child is, but going to laptime at the local library and bookstores really were a wonderful way for me to get out of the house and have quality time with my child. The Parents As Teachers program offers playgroups and home visits by a parent educator in most areas in the US. You can find out if there is a program in your area by going to http://www.parentsasteachers.org It is a fantastic program and in my area it is free!!

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bnewland wrote 2 years 4 weeks ago

I just became a work at home mom. I've worked full time since I graduated college and I even went back to work when Adrien was only 7 weeks old. This is going to be a big shock, I know. I'm used to getting out of the house every day. It hasn't gotten too bad so far, but it's only been a week. I know I'll start feeling it soon. Hang in there!!!

Bryany, Mommy to Adrien Dean 5.5.06

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bridtrl wrote 2 years 3 weeks ago

I was very independant before my son was born, and so motherhood has been a shock to the system. On top of that I grew up in another state, and people here are very diff. I'm a fish out of water. My son is only 7 and a half months so joining a group seems silly to me, and I am younger(20) and most mom groups are women in there mid to late 20's or even in their 30's. Sometimes I feel like having a convo that doesn't involve mamamabababagagaga. I'm hopeful it will get better as he gets older, and you should be 2. Hang in there.

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TAMMY wrote 1 year 37 weeks ago

Hi Im 42 yr old mom 2girls(I lost my 14yr old),but I also raised a family members girl for 5yrs.Its a reality ck to be at home again.Same situation as you said.We just moved last yr ,same isolate somewhat.

But I started doing some fun stuff,sorta of checking all the things,groups my daughters can do,also in the summer.And exercise group,great place to meet people,kids.

I seem to also fall into factors alot of moms are younger.But were as young as we feel.

Write im here Britlex884@aol.com-Tammy

good luck

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txchik24 wrote 2 years 3 weeks ago

I think we all do at some point. The best advice I can give is to get out there and meet other moms. I joined a playgoup over two years ago and it was a Godsend to my sanity. I moved last year to an area that did not have a group and I missed it so much I started my own!

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lkwait wrote 2 years 2 weeks ago

I have had moments, days and weeks where I felt so alone! I just couldnt take it anymore so I joined a boot camp class and we met MWF mornings EARLY and that was a great out for me... plus I have a built inbabysitter becasue it was before my hubby had to leave for work! Now I am about to join a StrollerFIt class and hopefully meet some other mommas inmy area.. you should do the same! here is there site:

http://www.strollerfit.com

~Lindsay~

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Niehaus wrote 2 years 1 week ago

I am thrilled that you are joining a Strollerfit class! I joined Strollerfit almost 4 years ago and have been doing it ever since! I loved it so much that I started my own class this past year. It is such a great way to meet other moms, have adult conversation, workout, and not feel like you are sacrificing time away from your child. My little ones love it just as much! The benefits are remarkable!

I wish you all the best!!

Ann

Ohio Strollerfit Franchise Owner/Instructor

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JenniNyla wrote 1 year 43 weeks ago

Sometimes it feels like everyone else in the household gets to do what they want when they want to do it... and as a mom I feel like I constantly have two lists... the "family to do" list and my personaly "what i'd like to do with my time" list... sure there are things that fit on both lists, like the earlier mentioned library lap sit. But for a long time it seemed as if weeks passed before I even crossed off one of my personal items. So now I literally have two lists written out! And throughout the week I'll leave those last two loads of laundry for the next day, or I say "so what don't get the bathrooms cleaned today"... At first I felt guilty.. but after a few weeks I realized I was MORE productive because I'm happier!

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TAMMY wrote 1 year 37 weeks ago

I started last week finally doing this,with the lists.I felt guilty,not now.More long over do stuff is getting done by me for me.But some benifits,all.

Thanks

Tammy

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melis wrote 1 year 42 weeks ago

I think every mom goes through that at some point, regardless of whether you work outside the home or not.

Like some of the other moms have mentioned, joining StrollerFit, or something like it, is a great way to get out of the house and do something for you. You get to meet other moms, get a great workout, and all the while keeping your babies with you! If you haven't yet, look for a StrollerFit in your area. It's not just a bunch of moms walking around with strollers. It's definitely a workout!

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hautemum wrote 1 year 35 weeks ago

Well , I have an 8 month old and another on the way and let me tell you I've been there! I love my daughter so much it hurts, so I'm happy I don't work,lol! But, there are times when I do get lonely and I take it out on my poor husband!

I know I feel stuck in the house cause it's been so cold! But, let me tell you when the weather breaks you won't catch me staying in! To hell with chores(if only I meant that part,lol)!

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tara wrote 1 year 34 weeks ago

It helps so much to hear that I am not the only one who can feel isolated. At least I feel a little more normal.... As for me, I am trying to get involved in play groups with my 11 month old. That really seems to help when I can actually get out the door and around other moms like myself. Also, I try and get outdoors as much as possible either walking or just going to the park.

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nreilley1 wrote 1 year 33 weeks ago

I definatley feel that way sometimes. most of my good friends around here do noto have kids or even boyfriends for that matter so I have been out of the loop with them. my friends with kids lives all over the country so I only talk to them through email.

Is anyone from wilmington, maybe we can get together and do some playdates. if you are interested in getting together you can emial me at nreilley1@yahoo.com

Nicole Mom of Braden

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pronity wrote 1 year 31 weeks ago

Ms Pronity says,I feel that way 24,7.I live with 5 kids ages 2-18 and I'm currently pregnant with my second child.Yes! this is MY second,the 2yr old is mine,the other four are his.I'm 22 and feel stressed with too much responsibility at all times,I just try to cope as best I can.I can't wait to have this baby so i can go get a job,I wanted to be a full time mom,but in my life that wouldn't work,except to drive me insane,I sometimes feel like packing up and running,but only stick around for my daughter,she loves her father and siblings.

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Pleasureparties... wrote 1 year 30 weeks ago

It's hard being a mom! Especially when our kids are so young. We seem home bound with no way out. Caged in, with the key thrown away. As they grow older, we turn into a taxi driver, cook, housekeeper, secretary, teacher, police officer, security guard...the list goes on and on. The best thing to do is get yourself a great support group. Other moms like here who understand it all. Try to get outside at least once a day...the sun does miracles to a persons body, both physically and emotionally.

And remember at the end of the day, you're just a mom.

Missy Pleasure Parties By Missy www.freewebs.com/pleasurepartiesbymi...

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sarah124 wrote 1 year 27 weeks ago

I love my daughter, and I love being able to stay home with her but isolation doesn't even begin to describe it somedays. How can I be watching her play and laugh and wishing I was at work. If I was at work I would wish I was at home. Is this what motherhood is? A neverending internal struggle if you're doing the right thing. I have stayed home with her for a year and have now found some other moms and that really helps so I wouldn't change my life, turns out the pros outweigh the cons. Most days.

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meandliam wrote 1 year 19 weeks ago

I'm in a bit of a different situation than a lot of moms. I'm 19. I'm in college. And I'm single. I don't get to have adult conversation very much. I feel like my house is my own little world and even though I feel isolated its intimidating to get out sometimes. My son is only 6 weeks lol. I start back to school in August and I'm a bit nervous. I feel like I belong to a different species than all the other college kids. So yeah, isolated is the feeling of the day. I just try to hang in there and keep from going nuts.

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